self love

Watering My Plants for my 28th Lap

It is the Age of Aquarius, in Aquarius season, and today is my twenty-eighty lap around the sun! I was born on a beautiful Friday morning back in1993 to two teenagers and whew, I am beyond blessed to be here today. 2020 was a trying year for myself and so many others but God isn’t done with me and has so many plans for my life. When I look at the woman I am today, compared to the one I was on January 22, 2020, the transformation is out of this world! I have blossomed spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and am constantly blown away by me. I hope you’re subscribed to Lookinthemirah’s weekly newsletter and if you are, you’ll know this past Sunday I wrote about “watering my plants” for my birthday. These plants are not physical, though I am a Plant Mom of 4, they have been beneficial instruments and the foundation of what I focused on to get me where I am today! Let’s jump in!


Before I really dive into this one, let’s be clear of the difference between being cocky and confident. Being cocky means being arrogant and conceited, in a bold way. Being confident is being self-assured. This year I have become so sure of who I am as a woman, as a human, and what I have been put on this Earth to do. Excuse me but you really can’t tell me shit about me. From a young age, my family would speak positivity into my life and tell me how beautiful I am, which I have always believed. In 2020, I worked so hard at getting my skin back to a space where I felt beautiful and confident enough to walk out of the house without makeup but also letting myself be okay with the fact that breakouts

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happen every once in a while, especially during stressful times. Not just physically, but I have become confident in who I am as a woman, and in my career, nobody is me and can do what I do because our visions just aren’t the same. Being placed in a box in my career is something I’ve also been adamant about not happening because being a stylist is amazing but there’s so much more to who I am. Being the center of attention is not for me, at all but this light gon’ shine ever so brightly. I’ve watered my plant of confidence and can walk into any room with my head held high showing everyone the same respect but also standing firm in the woman I am.


I take my morning and nightly routines so seriously. It’s important to me that before I start my day and before I end it, I spend time praying and meditating. Just having a good hour to be silent and spend time with me is part of the recipe for a beautiful day! My Mom-Mom has always told me praying shouldn’t always be about asking God for material things but more about listening. I listen and have been steered on an amazing path for my life that sometimes may not be clear to me at the moment but I know it’s the right one. I sometimes ask God for things too but it’s never anything material. I’m not perfect, nor will I ever be. Our faith can be tested at any given moment but I’m a believer that nothing happens just because, there’s always a reason and maybe it’ll be revealed to next month, next year, but it’s all part of life’s lessons. I’ve watered my plant of faithfulness, knowing that everything is in divine timing and going exactly the way God has intended it to.


I’ve grown to truly love boundaries. Through my relationships, from family and friends to romantic, I’ve learned the hard way how easy it is for someone to come into your life with an energy that doesn’t match yours and completely pull you down. I’ve had people tell me I’ve made bad decisions in my life and that I should be doing what THEY deem

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“good”. My life is just that, my own, and I will always do what I please as long as I’m not hurting anyone. When you constantly listen and take in other people’s opinions you’re not really living your life, now are you? Telling people less about your personal life, knowing how to respectfully remove yourself from situations you don’t want to be in is why creating boundaries has become so essential to my life. The less I have unwanted, unnecessary thoughts telling me what I “should” be doing, the better! I’ve watered my plant of boundaries, understanding that they have to be put in place for the sake of my mental health.


Your health is multi-faceted. Working on, and maintaining, my mental health was big for me when I was twenty-six, back in 2019 and throughout this year I continued to do that the things that keep me balanced like journaling and meditating. I’ve also exercised here and there but this year I was the most consistent. I have a set schedule of the days I work on my abs/midsection and the days I work on getting this booty bigger! Even though I did gain a lot more weight during quarantine than I have ever as an adult, I wasn’t mad at all. Exercising, to me, is much more than losing/gaining weight. I actually enjoy getting up before the sun has risen, throwing on my playlist full of songs that get me active, and get my body moving! I’ve also made major changes in what I put into my body. I became a

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pescatarian in September of 2018, then slowly transitioned into plant-based. I’m not vegan because every once in a while I’ll still eat some mac n cheese from a favorite soul food spot but meat is completely out of the picture and I rarely eat dairy. I didn’t know it would be this easy but I have found a lot of alternatives for chicken, cheese, and all the other foods I thought I couldn’t live without. I also started a brand called, The Natural Jawn. Juicing is a huge part of my life. I’ve been living in Brooklyn for over five years but my other homes are Philly and South Jersey, where there are little to no Black-owned juice shops! I wanted to create this space for people to drink healthy, natural juices filled with nutrients that get their bodies energized and ready to take on the world! I haven’t started selling the juices officially but will do so later on this year! I’ve water my plants of healthiness, allowing my body to move as much as it needs, to drink and eat all things that make my body happy, also rest when need be!


I’m not sure if it’s how I was raised or the air sign in me but I’m very much a free spirit, always have been and always will be. Rules? Nope, not following most of them. I don’t like to put restrictions on myself but I’ve learned all about being intentional and wow, what a game-changer that has been! The older I get the more I need some kind of structure in my life and it’s truly a fantastic feeling. With growing in my spirituality, I learned about being more intentional with everything I do in life. I read a ton of books from, “Vibrate Higher Daily”, to “Becoming Supernatural” and “Sacred Woman”, to “The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success” that have helped guide me onto this road of setting intentions each month/week and just being conscious of my actions and words. As I mentioned previously, during my morning and nightly routine I have daily affirmations and intentions I have recorded but also recite out loud before I start my day. Being intentional has set the tone of the way I know my life will go, full of authenticity, peace, and abundance. I’ve watered the plant of being intentional so that I am manifesting a beautiful life for myself, my family, and my future husband and children.

I felt so full this morning, and not full like I just ate a platter of some amazing Soul Food but full in the fact that my life, with its many ups and downs, is still oh-so-beautiful. I’m constantly evolving and watering the plants in life to help me grow into the woman I am today. I’m so thankful and so blessed to see another year. Like Nip said, “every twelve months you live another year, you ball.” And best believe this year, I am going all out, letting go of my fears, and coming for every single thing I want. The possibilities of my life are endless and God, my intentions, and my intuition haven’t and won’t steer me wrong!

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